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Erotic Asphyxiation- Choking Your Partner During Sex

Take erotic asphyxiation, for instance. Many people don’t have all the info about this unique technique and how to use it best for better sexual experience.

In case you are one of these people, you are in the right place here. This article gives you all the information you need to make erotic asphyxiation work wonders in your sex life.

What is Erotic Asphyxiation?

As the title of this article aptly put it, the other name for this technique is simple erotic choking. Yes, this technique is about playing around with the breadth of your partner during foreplay and during actual sex.

Let’s explain. This activity involves deliberate cutting off the supply of air for you or your partner with suffocating, choking, and other similar acts.

People who practice this technique say it heightens sexual arousal as well as making orgasms more intense.

But like almost every other technique, erotic asphyxiation has its fair share of risks. If you don’t do it well with the necessary cautions in place, it can turn deadly.

However, with the right facts, you can enjoy this thrilling experience and get much satisfaction in your sex life. Here are some things that you might want to know.

Is the technique ever safe?

Almost all sexual activities come with some measure of risk. However, several types of breadth play are riskier than others.

According to sex therapy experts, this technique can be hazardous and may lead to significant injury including, brain damage due to lack of oxygen, cardiac arrest and even death.

While it’s experts in sexual health advice against this technique, its popularity is increasing a lot, and measures can be taken to ensure it’s somewhat safer for interested persons. What’s important is to acknowledge that different forms of breath play have various risks, and the right precautions can go a long way in protecting you from these hazards.

By now, you might be wondering why people love this technique, yet it’s dangerous. Let’s find out.

Why People Enjoy Erotic Asphyxiation

There are several reasons why people enjoy erotic choking despite the potential dangers associated with it. Here are three of the most common causes.

Psychological

Some ardent fans of this technique love because of the power play element that comes with this arrangement. If you are the person in control during the session, you can suffocate or choke your partner. Alternatively, if you are the submissive one, your partner can control you in the same manner as he or she guides the events.

It is this dynamic that gives a second level of sexual arousal for some individuals.

Physiological

During this kind play, you and your partner choke the supply of oxygen to the brain, which is the first step of the process.

Low oxygen levels might lead to a feeling of dizziness or lightheadedness. But when you release the pressure and blood and oxygen start flowing again, you experience another type of rush.

This experience is caused by the release of serotonin, dopamine and endorphins that can lead to head-spinning exhilaration.

Physical

The immediate physical reaction also accounts for the love that many people have for the sexual choking technique. What happens is that immediately after suffocating, choking or strangling, your body is thrown into confusion. It takes the rush of the endorphins, mentioned earlier, to mean a positive and pleasurable sensation.

However, in reality, this release of endorphins in the body’s protective reaction. But in the mix of pleasure and emotions, these sensations may end up feeling like pleasurable pain rather than red flags from your body and brain.

These are some of the key reasons why many people cherish this strategy despite the risks involved.

You Can Do It to a Partner or Yourself

If you chose to do this technique to your partner, remember the dangers involved. It might be difficult for either you to know when the strangulation or choking has gone too far. If it goes beyond acceptable limits, it can extend the side effects and even heighten the risk of severe complications.

When you practice this technique solo, it’s called autoerotic asphyxiation or auto asphyxiation. This form of self-choking can be riskier than partnered erotic asphyxiation.

Many people who use this technique alone create a “fail safe”. This acts as a buffer to prevent them from going beyond the safe limits of self-choking. Some try hitting their knees on a closet in they pass out or use a knot that’s supposed to give way when the person pulls hard.

Although these efforts are meant to prevent death, they often fail.

A better approach would be to ask a trusted friend in and request them to keep watch maybe by being on standby next room or checking on you at scheduled intervals.

How to Have Safe and Responsible Breath Play

Responsible Erotic Asphyxiation boils down to the following three basic things:

Education

It would help if you learned as much s you can about the anatomy of the human neck, chest and head. This knowledge helps to understand better the limits of pressure and force that these critical parts of your body can withstand.

Knowledge of your anatomy will help you understand the value of proper hand placement as well as where to place your restraints such as ties, scarves, or  sex belts.

Most importantly, do not start with extreme choking as a beginner. Start with mild choking and increase it gradually as you get used to the technique.

Consent

In case you want to use this strategy with your partner, both of you must consent to use the technique.

Both of you should set and agree on the boundaries before you get into the heat of the action. It’s essential to give consent at every level of the play to avoid situations where you get so engrossed that you go beyond the accepted limits.

Be Sober

Avoid using alcohol or drugs before using engaging in breath lay. It’s hardly possible for you or your partner to give any meaningful consent when you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol. In any case, these substances can increase the risk of complications and injuries.

With these safety tips in mind, it is now time to consider the different risks associated with different breath play approaches.

Different Types Have Different Risks

Strangulation

When your body detects low blood flow is low, it increases the blood pressure

Releasing the strangulation can cause an exceptional surge of blood; at that point, euphoric sensations like loss of focus and disorientation set in.

In any case, strangulation, which might be done with the hands or a belt, tie, scarf, or another instrument, can get risky.

If the pressure is too much or continues for a long time, it could cause heart failure, even demise.

You can help forestall heart failure and demise by leaving at least two fingers’ width between the neck and the gadget you are using.

This guarantees that it isn’t fitted too firmly around the neck, while at the same time permitting you or your partner to compensate for any shortfall physically.

Choking

Pushing outwardly of your throat cuts off air and blood to the cerebrum from two primary veins. This causes breathing problems and can prompt lead to the feel-good symptoms mentioned earlier.

As long as you don’t apply intense pressure on the windpipe or Adam’s apple, you can practice this kind of breath play safely.

Smothering

Having your partner sit all over, or the other way around is a famous kind of breath play. Some of the time gas masks can achieve similar results.

This air passage deterrent situation limits oxygen to your brain, which can cause tipsiness and weakness.

When Done solo, smothering might be hazardous because you may drop before you can eject the obstruction.

Smothering might be safer with an accomplice, but you’ll require a safe word or sign to show when the pressure becomes too much.

Bag overhead

Slipping a bag over your head can quickly cut off oxygen or significantly diminish it. With too little oxygen, you may become unsteady or dizzy.

With a partner, this kind of breath play might be more secure, however alone; you risk dropping before you can take the bag off your head.

Are there any side effects?

Even when you take all the care you can; you might still encounter some side effects with this procedure.

Some of these side effects include, but are not limited to, the following:

  • disorientation
  • drowsiness
  • coughing
  • muscle weakness
  • numbness
  • loss of coordination

Of course, the magnitude of the side effects will depend on the intensity of the breath play.

Also, note that a single side effect is not necessarily dangerous.

However, you have to be particularly careful when you are practising this procedure alone. In such cases, experiencing multiple side effects all at once could be dangerous since they can hinder your ability to save yourself from the scenario.

This can be dangerous and can lead to death.

What If the Procedure Goes Too Far?

Under no circumstances should you or your partner allow breath play to go too far. The line between safe EA and danger is thin. That’s why most experts and many doctors advise against EA.

Just in case for some reasons, it gets out of hand, some complications that you and -or- your partner might have to contend with include:

Damaged Larynx

Applying too much pressure on the larynx can damage this delicate muscular organ. Also, the pressure may break or fracture the hyoid, the bone in your neck that supports your tongue.

Brain Damage

Cutting down oxygen to your brain causes brain damage.  The cumulative effect of regular EA on the brain can lead to severe damage over time.

Nausea and Vomiting

Some of the sensations that come as a result of EA make you nauseous and can lead to vomiting. However, it is not typical; some people end up aspirating this vomit by somehow getting the vomit into their lungs or airway.

In the long term, this can increase your risk of infection and cause breathing problems, among other challenges.

Orbital subperiosteal hematoma

Though rare, this condition, which in plain language means bleeding in the eyeball, can result in permanent loss of vision, not to mention long-term optic pain.

What to Do In Case of Emergency

If you or your partner stops breathing, call your local emergency service immediately. Then begin CPR. If you don’t know how to carry out this life-saving technique the emergency responder will guide you through.

Now that you are armed with these facts, it is your choice to either engage in EA or not. If you choose to so, follow or the necessary precautions outlined above. And just in case things go wrong, call your emergency team.

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